People have their hearts broken every day. None of us are immune to heartache. A broken heart is the most painful things a human being can experience. Its not always due to romantic relationships. Losing a parent, a friend, relative, or God forbid, a child is one of the main reason a perfectly content heart can break in an instant. In the past couple of weeks I've seen far too many of my friends lose a loved one. It also hurts to see someone else going through such excruciating pain. Regardless of the reason, feeling heartbroken is one of the hardest things a person can endure.
Some people cry, while others pray. Some become self destructive and stop caring about their own well being. Regardless of how we deal with it, that hollow, aching, pain in our chest reminds us of our heartbreak. Some say it feels like a heart attack, which I guess I understand. Its not uncommon to experience shortness of breath, or maybe even a panic attack during painful experiences. Panic attacks put us into 'fight or flight' mode, so this may be why so many relationships end in a fight? Who knows....I have, however experienced my fair share of panic attacks. I'm sure that at some point, at the end of a relationship, I used that 'fight' mode in non violent ways, of course.....
I came across this article that claims that a broken heart can, in fact kill you. While I have a hard time believing that, I know that sometimes, when dealing with grief, death may seen like a welcome escape. (Death is never the answer. If you are dealing with grief, and feel this way, please talk to someone. I will include hotline numbers at the bottom of the page). Here is an example of death due to a broken heart. I however, am not a believer in death by broken heart. In this case, a man died the day after his wife passed away. That to me, is true love. A rarity anymore. People are so quick to walk away at the first sign of trouble anymore. That's not true love. True love is loving a person, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Forgiving their mistakes. True love isn't conditional.
Anyway, getting back to what I was saying. Its crazy how heartache can sneak up on you well after you think you're finally feeling better. It could be crippling. The most important thing, in my opinion, is to find someone to talk to. A friend, parent, a counselor. Holding it in makes the gapping hole in your chest feel ever bigger. The hard part is finding someone to open up to. Someone who would let you just cry on their shoulder until there are no more tears. The sadness will remain for a while. Much longer if you're grieving a death, but when it comes to relationships, life will go out.
Cry if you need to, Don't let anyone make you feel dumb because you're crying over something that hurts you. Find someone that will be there for you. And remember, things will get better. No matter how much you loved that person, or how hard you tried. Chances are, its not your fault the relationship didn't work out. You're prince charming is out there...
I'm 35 years old, I've been through my fair share of heartbreak. I lost my sister and best friend, along with many, many others close to me. That's not a pain you 'get over'. More, you learn to live with it.
As for love, I refuse to give up on it. I know that one day, hopefully years from now (lol) I will meet someone that will sweep me off of my feet. I know that somewhere out there is my other half. The person who will love me for me, who will make me feel important and loved every day, and who loves my children simply because they're a part of me. Someday, I want to have a REAL wedding. And I want to spend my life with my best friend.
But for now, I'm focusing on my kids. They're growing up so fast. No man is worth missing this stage of my kids life. I love spending as much time as I can with them. And, they even fill that gapping hole in my chest for a little while.
So, I was going to post hotline numbers and I came across this. Its awesome. To anyone suffering, please don't do it alone. There are people out there who want to help. Click on the link below and check out their site.
As always, thanks for reading
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